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The Pain You Feel is Capitalism Dying
The Pain You Feel is Capitalism Dying
yes, it hurts… I know it… it hurt me from the moment I started to put my heart into everything I did… to relate heart to heart with the people I worked with.
it hurt so much that my body was screaming in illness (heart, thyroid, stomach, sexuality etc.). i killed my pain with more “work”, getting to sleep on my working desk from 5 to 7 am (it was no point of going home, having almost no sleep then coming back), numbing my feelings, living as a dead near the persons who loved me – crying out that I am not there until their tears dried off too -, me smiling on the outside to everyone, dying inside, searching for different therapists to solve my issues, even flying to USA for this(!).
something was not right, I was not doing it right… everyone else was seeming to be alright. they were not… I realized it after many years that they were also not alright. they were also struggling.
then I stepped out…
first (2005) when my heart was so torn from a decision of my boss, that I swore to myself I will never work with people who are not in their hearts.
secondly (2008) when I realized I was doing a crapy (not really wanted) job hoping they will fire me (not having the courage to scream out-loud!). they didn’t – I quit.
since 2005 I have the privilege to understand… and to connect the dots.
since then, working with career counseling, I know… when there is no heart, there is no life, when gifts are not acknowledged and manifested there is a hard time, stressful time, painful time… and not only for the person itself.
and yes, it’s a hard time to place your heart and gifts in organizations who are extracting wealth out of you, organizations which only claims to have you as their center, who claims to take care of you.
back in Feb 2015 I realized I will never find myself going back to the business environment again, at least for the one which is happening now… and it’s not going in a good direction.
Joe Brewer is right, IT is dying…
maybe there will be organizations which look like Frederic is describing, will see…
meanwhile, I choose to be next to children making sure their wings are clean, next to youth and adults who are in search for their hearts, gifts… for themselves… be close to them… hold the mirror so that they KNOW they are ALRIGHT!
precious humble job – sometimes is called facilitator, sometimes career counselor. I’m doing… nothing – they do everything – they have that power.
I light candles… I hold mirrors…
Christopher Alexander on Working on Wholeness
Ronen posted this quote some days ago…
I read it a couple of times up to know and every time I did it what came to my mind is… the mechanistic way of hiring people in the business environment, and the total lack of unfolding processes in the teams, in the organizations.
these are the main reasons I left my career back in October 2008: I could not find the place for the holistic-humane-whole approach in any organizational process and not having “the satisfaction of working on a psychological whole and making it complete“, in our teams.
and I was influencing people’s lives big time.
last year (I remember it was February) I knew inside I will never find a place back into the “business” as it looks now. in the last years I was struggling with different thoughts… it might sound familiar: “not good enough”, “I am nonadaptive”, “why do I need humane in my work? it’s a ONLY a job!”, “anyone else can do it but me!” etc.
now I am at peace about it… and grateful for it…
grateful for each colleague I’ve worked with… for it offered me those experiences…
reinventing organizations
“there’s something broken with the way we run organizations today.”
This is how Frederic Laloux starts this talk on Reinventing Organizations.
these were the reasons I left organizations. too much control from the top management, plans with no meaningful purpose, managers not walking the talk etc, no inspiring or empowering leaders, people loosing their light on the way, no passion from management.
in the beginning of 2015 I’ve decided I will not work in business organizations again, at least in the type of ones I worked in or the types I worked with or heard of, that includes all multinationals I know around in Romania.
Laloux has been doing a three year study which reveals some of the aspects I’m trying to implement in all my… so called work / career.. which is so part of my life :).
He says that the new emerging organizational management paradigm which seams to work and have tremendous results (also in numbers!) implement the following elements:
- self-management: in which, for example, decision making processes are not hierarchical nor consensus but implemented as an advice process, where everyone in the organization can make a decision based on consulting with a more experience person in the areas of decision and also with someone who will be directly affected by that decision.
- wholeness: which main focus is to create a safe space for people to work in and includes practices like feedback & evaluations, storytelling, compensations & incentives, on-boarding, office-space, conflict resolutions, recruitment, dismissal.
- evolutionary purpose: leaders are listening to where the organization wants naturally called to go and facilitate that way.
most of the organizations included in his research have no budgets, no targets, no sales targets. 🙂 sounds crazy for some, eh? 🙂
here is the entire talk:
I dedicate this talk with reverence and deep appreciation for all the experiences we’ve shared together with Calin E, Dumitru R, Dragos P and Calin F, along the way.
these experiences had brought me to where I am today – doing what I love, involving in projects I feel passionate about, meeting people with similar interests and meaningful purposes. 🙂 <3